Staking out your grief

When recently travelling along the highways and small back roads across Europe, I often came across roadside memorials called ‘iconostasis’. These iconostases, in the form of boxes, crosses, plaques or flowers, serve as a stake in the ground; a placeholder to remember someone who has lost their life. A quiet, modest ritual usually surrounds ... continue reading

Tina Pitsiavas interviewed for an article in the Illawarra Mercury

I was approached to offer some insights on the causes of broken engagements and how a broken engagement may affect the wellbeing of those involved. Read my article Breaking up is hard to do, as published in the Illawara Mercury. Tina Pitsiavas is a Counsellor, Art Therapist and Psychotherapist in private practice in Wollongong. Leave a ... continue reading

The happiness garden

As my friend busied himself making our coffees, I stepped into his backyard to check out the much-loved garden. I looked over the slightly unkempt garden beds and I had a sense of 'neglected love'. Knowing of the past efforts he put into making them look just right, I decided to start a conversation. 'What’s happened to the garden?', I ... continue reading

A visit from Happiness

When you ask yourself why is it that Happiness comes in bursts and doesn't seem to stay long, imagine Happiness as an intrepid traveller with many places and homes to visit. Happiness will always be a welcomed visitor when it stays with you for short periods. Its effect on our lives can be deeply appreciated and enjoyed. Overstaying its visit ... continue reading

A Narrative Perspective on Externalising “The Problem”

The problem brought into the session by the client can be so entangled in the person's life that unravelling "it" from the person can prove a tough challenge for the therapist. Narrative Therapy offers a way in which the therapist can create some breathing space between the client and their problem. A client who comes in and says "I am depressed" ... continue reading

Expanding Metaphors in Therapy

Metaphors are part of every day language and are typically used as a figure of speech to illustrate a connection between two seemingly unrelated things. They usually offer a parallel description to bring clearer meaning to a situation. Clients often use metaphors during therapy to describe a problem they are trying to work through. Therapists ... continue reading